Tuesday, March 6, 2012

I'm back, mentally conflicted, and ready to work!

Okay, so it might have been a month since my last post.  Oops. AND I kinda left you all with a cliff-hanger about an upset feeling tummy and heart burn. Forgive me?

Turns out I probably was just eating too much since I haven't really had the problem since. *whew*

However in the last month I've just been hovering at 217-219.  While I haven't gained weight, which is pretty much a miracle with my food choices/amounts, I haven't lost, which is the whole point.

So, for the umpteenth time, I'm back on track!! I swear!  And I have additional reminders/motivation this time!

Let me explain:  My hubby and I just started (last week) renting out our extra bedroom to a friend.  This benefits both sides in that it's saving her money to enable her to pay down her debt and basically get in a better financial place.  And basically the same for us.  After fixing a few things and the new washer/dryer we want, the rest of the money is going to paying off big chunks of credit cards and into savings! yay!
 But as for motivation, this girl is 26, a little over 6ft tall, and easily over 400lbs.  I like her a lot (dur, we're sharing a house with her) .. but her attitude is .. rubbing me the wrong way.  She "jokes" about being the "happy fat kid" when she eats her appetizer and entire plate and dessert when we go out to eat.  She says she's hot and sexy and all the guys know it and want her.. And I'm all for having a healthy self esteem at any weight (which i'm still learning for myself).. I think she's just covering.  She's also said "I look at pictures of myself at 15, and then now, and it's depressing" .. Hard to be the happy fat kid when you're upset about that.  I soooo want to say something, but I know it's not my place, and still being over 200lbs after having WLS, do I even have a leg to stand on? I mean I know personally, that a million people can tell you their opinion and what to do, but as we all know, until YOU decide to fix it, nothing is going to happen.

She's also reminded of a lot of my factors in choosing WLS.  She can't go up the 6 stairs in out split level without breathing hard, she can't fit in any booths.. she wants a new car but "only a 2 door cause they're easier to get in/out of".   I didn't want my life choices to be determined by my weight.   So I think I've found some renewed focus to cut back down on portion sizes and get my lazy behind back in the gym.  A) I don't want to ever be in that spot again  and b) maybe I can provide some positive motivation for her.  maybe.

So, apparently I'm wordy when I come back.  Thanks for listening (reading?)!



  1. Welcome back! I think the best thing you can do is be a good example. Like you said, she has to want it for herself. Now, if something is REALLY bothering you, like her keeping certain snacks in the house, I think it is okay to request she keep them in her room.

  2. THERE you are!! SO happy to see you back...keep plugging on girl, you're doing great...and good for you for setting a good example. Keep posting ok??!!!

  3. I've missed you terribly! Glad to hear (read?) that your heart burn issues have stopped! Definitely sounds like this girl that's staying with you is covering up poor self esteem by over-compensating. I mean, I totally used to do that. Still do, honestly. Hopefully you'll be able to set a good example for her and maybe involve her in some of your activities/food choices. Good luck and don't let her bring you down!

  4. Glad you are back and back on track! WOOT!

  5. Happy to see you back on track :o) & blogging!

  6. Glad to have you back. I hope your friend finds her motivation to improve her life.

  7. Wow, that is a difficult situation. Obviously she isn't happy but it doesn't sound like she is ready to change either. You need to be the role model for her!!